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For Family Members

Someone you love was arrested.
Here's what you can do.

You can't fight the case for them. But you can make sure nothing falls through the cracks. Take the free Defense Milestone Score on their behalf — it takes 2 minutes and flags the gaps their attorney might be missing.

Take the Score on Their Behalf — Free

No sign-up required. Results are instant and anonymous.

You want to help. You don't know how.

Maybe it was a phone call at 2 AM. Maybe you watched it happen. Either way, you're in a fog of disbelief and you need to do something.

The legal system doesn't come with instructions for family members. Nobody tells you what's normal, what's a red flag, or when you should start asking hard questions about the defense strategy.

That's where the Defense Milestone Score comes in. You answer questions about where the case stands — charge type, case stage, attorney behavior — and get an instant score that tells you if things are on track or if there are gaps that need attention.

5 things family members can do right now

1

Take the Defense Milestone Score

Answer questions about the case on their behalf. You'll see immediately if their defense is on track or if critical steps are being missed.

2

Research and vet attorneys

They may be too overwhelmed or incarcerated to research effectively. You can compare attorneys, check bar records, and read reviews for them.

3

Attend court dates

Your presence shows the judge the defendant has community support. Dress appropriately, arrive early, sit quietly. It matters more than you think.

4

Write character reference letters

When sentencing arrives, character letters from family carry weight. Describe their positive qualities, community ties, and support system.

5

Handle the practical stuff

Bills, childcare, employment communication, mail, pets — every practical burden you lift is one less thing pulling their focus from the case.

What NOT to do

Don't discuss the case on social media

Don't contact witnesses or alleged victims

Don't pressure them to accept or reject a plea

Don't talk about the case on jail phone calls — they're recorded

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Find out if their defense is on track

The Defense Milestone Score checks 10 critical defense behaviors across any charge type. You can take it on their behalf — just answer based on what you know about the case.

Take the Defense Milestone Score

2 minutes. Instant results. No email required.

Want the full guide?

Our complete guide for family members covers the first 48 hours, attorney research tactics, courtroom etiquette, character letters, and common mistakes that hurt the case.